The most important thing I did for my confidence was removing myself from
Facebook! I had so many “friends” on there showing pictures of their perfect meals and perfect vacations and perfect relationships. Until I realized that what they were showing the world was a fantasy, it wasn’t real at all. The most confident people I know don’t do that. They are too busy actually creating things and living life to be projecting illusions onto others for validation. Validation must come from within! I no longer scroll on Facebook and compare myself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. I know now that I’m enough just as I am. Thank you for reminding me of how far I’ve come Idris Elijah!!
Beautifully said, Brooke! Social media in general isn’t a place where you’ll find self-esteem and an accurate depiction of reality. Pleased to hear that you too saw the fantasy for what it was. It’s a pleasure to write for you 😊🙌🏾
Something important clicked for me while I was reading your newsletter just now. You should strive to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend. When I talk to my best friend it’s from a place of wanting to uplift, inspire and celebrate him. I absolutely should be doing the same for myself. It’s an excellent way to challenge negative thoughts and self doubt. Just like you said, it’s not magic but a process. A process I’m committed to working on each day with the encouragement of those closest to me. Great read Idris!
Wonderful insight, and you’re right. You should talk to yourself like you talk to a good friend. You are your first love, your first best friend, and you will spend the rest of your life with yourself. So you have to love yourself and speak to yourself with kindness. It matters so much and we can all learn to speak better about and to ourselves. Thanks for sharing your perspective Brian! 🙃🙌🏾
Once again you’ve come to the rescue at my job! I’ve talked before about a very difficult coworker I have and your tips about doing the pause and not reacting to everything she says has really helped me. Reading this newsletter helped me see I can work more on my assertiveness with her and in company meetings to increase my confidence. All in a professional manner. I need to stick up for myself at work because no one else will. I do a great job for my employer and need to feel that confidence, even with coworkers I may not care for. Thank you so much for all the good insights today Idris Elijah!
The most important thing I did for my confidence was removing myself from
Facebook! I had so many “friends” on there showing pictures of their perfect meals and perfect vacations and perfect relationships. Until I realized that what they were showing the world was a fantasy, it wasn’t real at all. The most confident people I know don’t do that. They are too busy actually creating things and living life to be projecting illusions onto others for validation. Validation must come from within! I no longer scroll on Facebook and compare myself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. I know now that I’m enough just as I am. Thank you for reminding me of how far I’ve come Idris Elijah!!
Beautifully said, Brooke! Social media in general isn’t a place where you’ll find self-esteem and an accurate depiction of reality. Pleased to hear that you too saw the fantasy for what it was. It’s a pleasure to write for you 😊🙌🏾
Something important clicked for me while I was reading your newsletter just now. You should strive to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a good friend. When I talk to my best friend it’s from a place of wanting to uplift, inspire and celebrate him. I absolutely should be doing the same for myself. It’s an excellent way to challenge negative thoughts and self doubt. Just like you said, it’s not magic but a process. A process I’m committed to working on each day with the encouragement of those closest to me. Great read Idris!
Wonderful insight, and you’re right. You should talk to yourself like you talk to a good friend. You are your first love, your first best friend, and you will spend the rest of your life with yourself. So you have to love yourself and speak to yourself with kindness. It matters so much and we can all learn to speak better about and to ourselves. Thanks for sharing your perspective Brian! 🙃🙌🏾
Once again you’ve come to the rescue at my job! I’ve talked before about a very difficult coworker I have and your tips about doing the pause and not reacting to everything she says has really helped me. Reading this newsletter helped me see I can work more on my assertiveness with her and in company meetings to increase my confidence. All in a professional manner. I need to stick up for myself at work because no one else will. I do a great job for my employer and need to feel that confidence, even with coworkers I may not care for. Thank you so much for all the good insights today Idris Elijah!
That’s all incredible! You’ve been making strides for weeks now. I am so happy for you, and deeply pleased with your enjoyment of this issue 😊🙌🏾