I thought about my infamous difficult coworker the entire time I read this lol. How I would love to leave a copy of this newsletter on her desk! She has convinced herself that because she is telling everyone at work “the truth” that we will respond well to her feedback. But just like you said, not having tact can end up having the opposite effect. We don’t respect her and we don’t like her! One of the most important things I’ve learned reading The Potential Paradox is to focus on areas where I can improve myself. That “You messed up” vs. “Let’s take another look together” was such an eye-opener. I’m definitely going to practice that at work. Thank you Idris Elijah!
Ahahah, she surely is infamous 🤣 great insight here though. Not having tact can result in people not liking you and definitely not respecting you. Love this! It’s so important to focus on areas where you can improve ourselves. At the end of the day, we can only change ourselves.
You make such an important point about people never forgetting how you made them feel. I had a manager once who always gave feedback kindly, even when it was hard to hear. I respected her so much for that. I work on being that type of communicator every day. You’ve given some great tips that will improve my social tact even more, especially the pause and choose my words before speaking. This is a very important topic for business, relationships and life. Great insights Idris!
Indeed, tact is very important to business, relationships, and life as a whole. It’s great you had an impactful leader who showed you good leadership. Something you can build upon. So pleased you enjoyed the insights in this issue.
Reading this made me reflect on how much unnecessary tension I’ve caused by being too blunt. I used to think being direct was a strength (and in many ways it still is) but I now understand that delivery matters just as much as content. Your example of ‘This makes no sense’ versus ‘Can you walk me through it again?’ really stuck with me. It’s the same message but a different emotional impact. I’m going to apply these strategies with the people closest to me and I think I can avoid small misunderstandings turning into arguments. Thank you so much Idris Elijah!!
Right, I always thought being blunt and not mincing words was the right path and a strength (and it is sometimes). But the better approach is with tact. I’m pleased you got something out of this newsletter. I think tact is such an important topic. Thank you Brooke. Always enjoy hearing from you 😄
The part that resonated with me most was when you said that people don’t remember what you said, but how you made them feel. That’s something I’ve experienced in my own life, especially in past romantic relationships. Sometimes I said the right thing, but in the wrong tone. I see now how I could have done better. Your newsletter reminded me that tact is an act of kindness, not manipulation. It’s empathy in motion. Thank you for this valuable and beautifully articulated reminder Idris Elijah!
I love how you describe tact: it’s an act of kindness, not manipulation. It’s empathy in motion. So beautiful said! And you’re right. It is. I’m pleased you found this issue valuable. Thank you for sharing your perspective Jody. Much appreciated 🙃🙏🏾
I thought about my infamous difficult coworker the entire time I read this lol. How I would love to leave a copy of this newsletter on her desk! She has convinced herself that because she is telling everyone at work “the truth” that we will respond well to her feedback. But just like you said, not having tact can end up having the opposite effect. We don’t respect her and we don’t like her! One of the most important things I’ve learned reading The Potential Paradox is to focus on areas where I can improve myself. That “You messed up” vs. “Let’s take another look together” was such an eye-opener. I’m definitely going to practice that at work. Thank you Idris Elijah!
Ahahah, she surely is infamous 🤣 great insight here though. Not having tact can result in people not liking you and definitely not respecting you. Love this! It’s so important to focus on areas where you can improve ourselves. At the end of the day, we can only change ourselves.
You make such an important point about people never forgetting how you made them feel. I had a manager once who always gave feedback kindly, even when it was hard to hear. I respected her so much for that. I work on being that type of communicator every day. You’ve given some great tips that will improve my social tact even more, especially the pause and choose my words before speaking. This is a very important topic for business, relationships and life. Great insights Idris!
Indeed, tact is very important to business, relationships, and life as a whole. It’s great you had an impactful leader who showed you good leadership. Something you can build upon. So pleased you enjoyed the insights in this issue.
Reading this made me reflect on how much unnecessary tension I’ve caused by being too blunt. I used to think being direct was a strength (and in many ways it still is) but I now understand that delivery matters just as much as content. Your example of ‘This makes no sense’ versus ‘Can you walk me through it again?’ really stuck with me. It’s the same message but a different emotional impact. I’m going to apply these strategies with the people closest to me and I think I can avoid small misunderstandings turning into arguments. Thank you so much Idris Elijah!!
Right, I always thought being blunt and not mincing words was the right path and a strength (and it is sometimes). But the better approach is with tact. I’m pleased you got something out of this newsletter. I think tact is such an important topic. Thank you Brooke. Always enjoy hearing from you 😄
The part that resonated with me most was when you said that people don’t remember what you said, but how you made them feel. That’s something I’ve experienced in my own life, especially in past romantic relationships. Sometimes I said the right thing, but in the wrong tone. I see now how I could have done better. Your newsletter reminded me that tact is an act of kindness, not manipulation. It’s empathy in motion. Thank you for this valuable and beautifully articulated reminder Idris Elijah!
I love how you describe tact: it’s an act of kindness, not manipulation. It’s empathy in motion. So beautiful said! And you’re right. It is. I’m pleased you found this issue valuable. Thank you for sharing your perspective Jody. Much appreciated 🙃🙏🏾